Ross’s Realisms by Lovette

Ross’s Realisms by Lovette

ROSS’S REALISMS #1

    1. Bad company corrupts good character. Winners hang around winners!
    2. Be around those who have the qualities you wish to possess.
    3. Don’t hang around gossipers, busybodies & folk who aren’t about anything – if they spend all their time talking about others’ lives – they aren’t doing much with theirs!
    4. What people converse about most lets you know what they’re all about!
    5. How people treat others is most likely the way they’re going to treat you.
    6. HATERS HATE! That’s their nature – if someone hates on others they’ll surely hate on you too!
    7. The way people operate in jail IS how they give it up on the street!
    8. Backbiters, liars & snitches will get you caught up in their mess! They’re NOT to be trusted! STAY AWAY!
    9. If a person’s words and actions DON’T line up- they are liarss!
    10. Books are our friends!

*DON’T JUST EXIST- MAKE A DIFFERENCE! *

ROSS’S REALISMS #2

  1. Tell people you love them while you can- NO REGRETS!
  2. Learn how to mind your own affairs and stay out of folk’s conversations – it’ll keep you from a ton of trouble!
  3. Lighten up! Please! Be able to laugh at yourself and be a good sport.
  4. No one can do it but YOU– stop procrastinating & just handle that!
  5. It wouldn’t kill you to learn how to do it yourself now would it?
  6. Explore different ideas, cultures & cuisines– you may be surprised!
  7. Step outside your comfort zone- Challenge yourself. DO NEW THINGS & BROADEN YOUR HORIZONS!
  8. See the good in people- Don’t be critical- NITPICKING IS WHACK!
  9. No more excuses from here on out- THAT’S IT & THAT’S ALL!
  10. People see who you are by what you DO. ACTIONS SPEAK VOLUMES

*BE A PERSON OF INTEGRITY, SUBSTANCE, AND CHARACTER!

ROSS’S REALISMS #3

    1. Incorporate more balance in your life. Take time to chill. 
    2. Always make time for fun & play.
    3. FROLIC! When was the last time you frolicked? Can’t remember? – 911! HANDLE THAT!
    4. Nourish/Nurture your inner child!
    5. Be your Sister’s and Brother’s Keeper.
    6. Take time to listen to others’ stories, no judgment
    7. Give Generously.
    8. Spend Wisely.
    9. Stay in touch with your feelings.
    10. Be compassionate, forgiving, and humble.

*BE THANKFUL FOR YOUR LIFE!

ROSS’S REALISMS #4

  1. Be a pal to someone who’s lonely.
  2. TWITTER’S FOR THE BIRDS! Network the natural way- FACE 2 FACE!
  3. Crack someone up with laughter everyday and don’t forget to laugh yourself!
  4. Look up ⬆ Not Down ⬇Embrace Nature & Creation
  5. Pet animals, especially dogs, it lowers your stress levels and B/P.
  6. Smile at people- Say HI! and Top of the Morning!
  7. UPDATE YOUR WARDROBE- Get JIGGY WIT IT!
  8. Footwear is AWESOME! Shout out Sneakers!
  9. THANK GOD FOR CHOCOLATE! RIGHT ON!
  10. LIVE YOUR LIFE!

*TRAVEL, LOVE & ENJOY!

ROSS’S REALISMS #5

    1. Stop ear hustlin’! Mind ya neck before you don’t have one!
    2. Don’t sell ya soul for rollies, Banquet Chicken or Shebangs!
    3. Commissary whores are whack! Have some dignity, please!
    4. Shut the hell up! Loose Lips Sink Ships!
    5. Stop letting the time do you – Shake off the pity party and FIX YOUR LIFE!
    6. Put the drugs and stogs down before they put you down!
    7. Be involved – in a good way.
    8. GET UP & LIVE!
    9. Winners Never Cheat & Cheaters Never Win!
    10. True Love will always conquer hate!

*DON’T LIE!

*Always do the right thing in every situation … it’ll pay off!

ROSS’S REALISMS #6

    1. STOP SNITCHIN’! AND BEING A SELL OUT!
    2. Have dignity- don’t be petty.
    3. HELP not HINDER.
    4. Expand your horizons- Look up!
    5. Step out of your comfort zone – Try some new things.
    6. Be VERSATILE – IT’S FUN!
    7. Don’t hate- CREATE something beautiful.
    8. GET OVER IT!
    9. Be polite, not rude.
    10. Look out for your fellow man- it could be you one day down and out, you never know…

*Bonus— SMILE! 😉

ROSS’S REALISMS #7

  1. STOP BEGGIN’!! PLEASE!! If you can’t afford your habit- it’s time to quit and if you’re being cheap… JUST STOP!!
  2. Don’t USE people.
  3. Learn to wait your turn- that’s how the real world is.
  4. GROW THE F**K UP! Drop the “I DON’T WANNA GROW UP” Toys R’ Us kid syndrome.
  5. STOP smoking cigarette butts for crying out loud – one word… COVID!
  6. DON’T WASTE TIME! There’s too much to do for daKingdom!
  7. Use your God given gifts and talents to improve the world and your life.
  8. Find your purpose and mission in life.
  9. FOLLOW YOUR HEART AND PASSIONS.
  10. Live your best life over and over all your days on the earth.
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*Bonus- *NEVER SETTLE!

ROSS’S REALISMS #8

  1. HOLD IT DOWN! AND JUST HANDLE THAT!
  2. Don’t just watch others live their lives- Live yours also- TO THE FULLEST! Wherever you are. 
  3. Learn how to cheer for yourself and BELIEVE IN YOU!
  4. Be inspired and pass it on.
  5. Influence others for the better.
  6. Have high standards for yourself and those in your life.
  7. PURSUE YOUR PASSIONS and dreams.
  8. Avoid folk who disrespect or don’t appreciate you.
  9. What you allow is what you cosign to.
  10. Respect yourself and your fellow man/woman.

* IT’S NOT ALL ABOUT YOU! -BE CONSIDERATE OF OTHERS! PLEASE!!

ROSS’S REALISMS #9

    1. STOP THE NONSENSE and HANDLE YO’ BIZZNESS! – OK!
    2. Quit gossiping and GET A LIFE!
    3. KNOWLEDGE IS POWER-BE INFORMED!
    4. Be a VICTOR not a VICTIM!
    5. Learn how to manage your time and funds well.
    6. Don’t be wasteful- help somebody out!
    7. Develop some fun hobbies– find good uses for your hands.
    8. COPYCATS ARE WHACK! – BE ORIGINAL AND INNOVATIVE!
    9. Be Thankful- DAILY! PASS IT ON!
    10. Don’t be greedy- SHARING IS CARING!
    11. HUGS HEAL!
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*EMPOWERMENT RULES!

ROSS’S REALISMS #10

    1. NEVER let your dreams die… you’ll follow soon after.
    2. FIGHT for who and what you love.
    3. Persistence pays HUGE dividends!
    4. SHOW ME THE MONEY! Shout out Jerry Maguire!
    5. If you can’t make it happen-don’t waste my time! RESULTS RULE!
    6. Find something beneficial to do with yourself- FOR GOD’S SAKE! Don’t just take up space!
    7. REFUSE to be a sore loser- it’s just SPADES, damnit!
    8. Be a winner at LIFE and help others win too!
    9. Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say!
    10. Do things FROM THE HEART.
    11. There’s No Future in Fronting! — “FACTS!”

*LET’S DO THIS!

Interview with Julissa

Interview with Julissa

Diane: How is your daily life without your husband?

Julissa:  In the beginning there was a lot of anguish, distress and worry. It happened too quickly. I was very scared. Our family dynamics changed radically. He was the main caregiver for our daughter, Celeste, since I was in school. 

Diane: Do you have children together?

Julissa: We have two children. Celeste is nine years and Rafael is 11 months old.

Diane: How long has your husband been imprisoned?

Translator: Five years.

Diane: How often do you get to see him?

Julissa: First, he was in a prison here in Itagüí, where we live. We saw each other every week. He was there for a year, and then was transferred to a prison in Santander, in another state. I had to jump through a bunch of legal hoops to request him to come back. Right now, he’s in a prison in Puerto Triunfo, and we see him every 21 weeks.

Diane: Why so long between visits?

Julissa: Because of the pandemic, they only allot two visits per year. We are hoping eventually, we’ll be able to see him every month.

Diane: Is it difficult to be transferred?

Julissa: It is very difficult, he’s four hours away. The idea of getting there is complicated. Even though they made the visits more often, monthly, it’s not easy. I have to leave at 2:30 in the morning to arrive at 6:30. In total, it costs about 150,000 Colombian pesos which is a lot for me. Right now I’m unemployed, so it’s really hard. I’m one of the ‘lucky ones’ for having a car. The others have to take a bus, leaving the day before and arriving at three in the morning. They bathe in a small room they rent before they enter the prison.

Diane: How does he parent from afar?

Julissa: He tries to do his best. He was the primary caregiver for Celeste, so breaking off completely from her has been, and continues to be super difficult. He’s calling all the time. He tries to do homework with her. I don’t know if I can mention this, but he has a phone, which helps a little. I try to communicate everything about her to him, but sometimes she gets mad and says,  “Why did you tell that to dad? Don’t tell him everything!” I responded, “Because he’s your dad and he needs to be aware and know everything.” He is always watching out for her, wanting to know if she’s doing well or not. He’s very present and he really cares about them. 

Diane: What’s the hardest thing about him being away?

Julissa: Everything. It’s hard to maintain a long-distance relationship, especially since we were used to being together all the time. We are not verbal, but rather physical, when showing affection. When there are problems at home, sometimes I don’t tell him everything. I don’t want to stress him out. I feel helpless. I know so much happens to him in there, which he keeps to himself, not to worry me. For example, I know that this week he went to bed every night hungry, and that kills me. They’re giving them spoiled meat. The corner store isn’t selling them anything either, so he’s only getting liquids. That is really hard. It’s a pretty difficult, violent prison. They fight a lot. So it’s a lot of agony knowing I’m eating well compared to him. Also, the temperature at night is hot, I despair knowing that sometimes it is 29 or 30 degrees -is really difficult. They sometimes take the fans, their only air. They do such difficult things for them, for no reason. Evil inhumane things. Dealing with that is the toughest part for me.

Mauricio, 34

Meet Mauricio…

Mauricio, 34
Incarcerated: 2 years
Housed: La Paz Maximum Security Prison, Itagui, Medellín, Colombia

Diane: I want to hear about your tattoos because I hear you’re an artist.

Mauricio: My tattoos, well, I’m a professional tattoo artist. That’s what I do here. This is what brings me a bit of calmness and lets me feel removed from all the issues and troubles. 

Diane: What part of being an artist makes you calm?

Mauricio: One way is the sensation of the other person being happy with the tattoo when I finish and to see their reaction and happiness. Also, it doesn’t allow me to overthink things outside. I’m focused for a lot of hours on the tattoo. I tattoo myself when I’m super stressed.